Today I’m excited to share with you about femininity.
When I think of it, to be honest I think of France. I think of French women. I think of the mindset that couture designers have when they dress a woman’s body. I think of the fact that the Cathedral of Chartres is considered to be the mother womb of spirituality in Europe. I think of French women not even conceiving of not being in their beauty and self-care.
Whatever point of view you might have here is fine. I’m here to share that when I find myself to be too much in the masculine energy, I miss the fluidity. I miss the pleasure. I miss the little joys, the little details which bring me a feeling of poise, of elegance, and of completely loving my life.
And that’s the key. If you’re exhausted or overwhelmed in any area of your life, you’re probably not leading yourself elegantly.
And this is precisely why Elegant Personal Leadership™ has come into being — for so many, it is the missing piece.
According to Matthew E. May, author of In Pursuit of Elegance, there are four key elements of elegance, all of which must be present.
Symmetry, seduction, subtraction, sustainability. These are the key elements of elegance— the laws that can help us harness the power of the missing piece.
Symmetry helps us solve problems of structure, order and aesthetics. We are natural-born symmetry seekers. Most of nature, with its infinitely repeating patterns, is symmetrical. It is present in nearly every living thing, and we generally equate symmetry with beauty and balance.
Seduction addresses the problem of creative engagement. It captivates any attention and activates any imagination. The power of suggestion is often stronger than that of full disclosure. Leaving something to the imagination, open to interpretation, creates an irresistible aura of mystery, and we are compelled to find answers. The seduction is in what we don’t know.
Subtraction helps us solve the problem of economy. Doing less, conserving, doesn’t come naturally. Humans are natural-born adders, hard-wired to push, collect, hoard, store and consume.
And therein lies the conundrum. The same penchant we have to “fill in,” to add, is exactly why elegance, being subtractive is so elusive. Whether we’re talking about a product, a performance, a market, or an organization — or our lives! — our addiction to addition results in inconsistency, overload, or waste, and sometimes all three.
Can you relate? Can this be a reason you are fatigued in your body and overwhelmed in your business?
So, can we really add value by subtracting? The answer is yes. The trick is in understanding what to eliminate, and exactly how to go about it.
This means in your life, in your business — fundamentally in your being.
Sustainability helps us solve that problem; it implies a process that is both repeatable and lasting — such as personal leadership.
Elegance is at once symmetrical, seductive, subtractive and sustainable. It takes a blend of logic and creativity to understand how to balance the four.
Elegance likes order. Elegance requires discipline. Elegance can bring us unique solutions. Elegance is logic. And all of these are pretty masculine.
Now let’s go back to the femininity piece of elegance.
Elegance is the art of being… and doing less. Elegance is pleasure. Elegance is receiving more of what we desire, by eliminating the extraneous. Elegance is leaning back. Elegance is creativity and fluidity. All feminine.
As you see elegance is also both — it is a constant dance of the masculine and the feminine. And leading yourself, your life, your business, is also both.
So, what might this look like?
Imagine releasing the extraneous doing in your life so that you can come home to your true self and lead yourself, your life, your business, your relationships from within… from who you truly are?
IMAGINE BECOMING THE LEADER OF YOUR DESIRES!
Most women do NOT become leaders of their desires. Rather, they become trapped as leaders of what’s expected of them.
Now, take a step back (because it’s elegant to actually see for yourself) that if you’re in overwhelm, exhaustion, indecision, hesitation, procrastination and possibly more, you are neither in elegance, nor in personal leadership. How is this affecting you? Your life? Your business? Your relationships?
More importantly, how can you transform this? How can you navigate your life with precision so that you can take the helm as a powerful leader and elevate to elegant success?
I have a free gift for you, in which I offer you the steps to become the leader of your life and of your desires. Email firstname.lastname@example.org and say "Yes, I want my free gift" to receive it.
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Françoise Everett, MS is a facilitator, feminine leadership coach, author, speaker and lifestyle business owner. She works and supports women entrepreneurs and women who hold leadership positions by unlocking their inner wisdom, feminine power, and hidden richness.